What do I have to change?

Spring is bellowing, but the ever-changing direction of the signs has me guessing. Information shifts daily; sometimes multiple times a day. I'm not sure whether to prepare for an emergency situation or if that is an over-reaction. Are we in for more intense, more frequent climate disasters as we move into the hot, humid months? Are we in for an economic crisis, a political meltdown, or a worldwide epidemic? Should I stock up on water, paper towels, and toilet paper? There are giant issues that can cause us to feel overwhelmed. I have felt ready to climb back into bed and pull up the covers in the last few weeks.

Leave our personal challenges at the door when visiting someone who needs our help and attention.

When facing the growling threat of a terminal illness, though, these national and world issues can quickly become secondary. It's not that they are unimportant - they certainly need our attention and action. They fall into background noise when a loved one's diagnosis takes precedence. The world shrinks down to the time we have left with our loved ones (or with our mortality). The time left can feel like an ever-ticking clock, counting down the precious moments.

To make the right decisions, I lower my eyes and turn to my heart. Meditation and quietness allow me the space to look inside for the answers I seek. My questions might be: "How can I truly help my [friend, family member, spouse, child, hospice patient, etc.]?" and "What can I do to move into a supportive role?" The whispering song from my heart is always this: "Let go of what you cannot change and look at what's in front of you. Leave your troubles at the door as you step into their world. This is the immediate need." And as I look into the person's eyes, this moment blooms. It becomes everything.

Perspective is key. I believe we are here for each other, to support and lift each other up when we can. And, to reciprocate with our own hearts and minds. It takes practice to put aside our worries and plans to focus on another so fully that we are engaged. It is often quite rewarding to move into that place with another, too. I will keep on practicing!